Think about the “work hard—play hard” principle. For the recreational golfer, golf is the “play hard” part. You work hard at the workplace and may even work hard at the golf course, but as a recreational golfer, you aren’t planning to become a pro—you came out to have fun!
I enjoy the competition and sportsmanship of golf. I work my ass off to get better, get some exercise, and enjoy the day. I may not score well, but I love the game.
In the past, close friends and colleagues have labeled me a workaholic and encouraged me to get away from the office. Taking time to learn to golf seemed like an awesome way for me to do just that. I have had a lot of fun on and around the course, and I am actually quite proficient at chilling out with a beer on the 19th hole. Ahhh…
Game over! Game on!
One of the most important concepts to incorporate and practice in your day-to-day life is that of realizing the necessity to challenge yourself continually in one or many sectors of your life. There are times to work hard, times to play hard, and times to do whatever it takes to make it all work for you. Think about how diversified and chaotic our lives become over time. We play several different roles at work and at home, enjoy successes, deal with failures, regroup, and get things done. We chase the ideal of attaining success and balance in our lives.
When you push yourself to learn, you are really taking time to invest in yourself. There is a sense of enlightenment and confidence. You grow more and more knowledgeable about what is important to you, and this affects your view of the world—you see the glass as half-full, rather than half-empty. I refer to this as educated optimism. You like what you see, which is a direct result of your own efforts. You feel positive because of your knowledge. Whether developed through education or experiences, or both, you have developed a sense of educated optimism. It is an ongoing process and an important ingredient in building a successful life.
The funny thing is, if you ask most people if they are genuinely happy with all of the results in their life, the truthful answer is often no. Why? Usually, because they feel they don’t have the time to pursue their dreams and interests. They can’t seem to find the time to do what they want. They may long for new experiences and challenges, and want to attempt and try new things. They may even yearn to resurrect an old dream, but for some reason, they never make the time and, therefore, feel they are missing life.
Well, take it from the workaholic. Each one of us can probably find at least one hour of time each day that we are wasting. My suggestion is to make the effort to dedicate a chunk of time every single day to reflect on where you are in your life and where you see yourself in the near future while focusing on self-development.
If you are unhappy with something in your life, you have the ability to change it, take control, change your behavior, and improve.
Think of it this way: You can Sudoku yourself to death, or watch hours of TV, or you can open your mind to learning new things.
For me, learning is a passion. I am always reading. I love thick hardcover books about business, psychology, travel, and art, and I spend hours sleuthing information on the Internet. I’m an information junky. I want to experience and try everything. I want to sail the world, drink in culture and philosophy, learn different languages, and continue to grow as a person.
Somewhere along the line, my passion for learning turned into a life habit. It’s what I do. It’s not difficult and, as hectic as my life gets; I always make time to learn.
This kind of self-study works and it turns you into an educated optimist. You are mentally stimulated; you know a little about a lot of different things that you are interested in, and you have a lot to talk about. You have effectively rendered yourself interesting.
This form of personal development helps you grab hold of what works well in your life and enables you to see where things could be better.
If you are looking for a good place to get started, look at what you like or love to do. Think about what you used to do but can no longer find the time. Then make the decision to make the time. Make time for you! Again, invest in yourself!
Everything that you do in life spills over; when things are working in your work life, it spills over to your home life and vice versa. When you look forward with educated optimism, it shows in all that you do. Perhaps educated optimism is the ultimate positive attitude that drives success in our lives.
Avid golfers creatively practice their sport! They check their grip as they grab the handle of a broom, and they test how well they calculate distance as they walk their dog! You might say that avid golfers always keep their game in play—even when off the course.